Lindsey here! This year I turned 34 years old and I am feeling so grateful. I used to not want to get older, but now I have a different perspective. My intention is to remind you all of the joys of getting older, as well as the ways in which we can illuminate our own brilliance in order to feel and look younger.
We are sold youth everywhere we go. It is a $200 billion-dollar industry that is making money off of telling us we need to look a certain way to be accepted by people. Trust me, I have bought the creams and done the things, and I have zero judgment around that.
My hope is to highlight the incredible privilege it is to get older because I believe that age is just a number. It is another label that we give ourselves and over identify with, so here are 4 reasons why I love getting older.
Here’s my solo episode about honoring yourself as you age!
In this post you’ll learn:
- Why Lindsey Simcik allows pain to move through her
- Why Lindsey Simcik loves herself more as she gets older
- How Lindsey Simcik takes more responsibility
- Why Lindsey Simcik believes rest is the true fountain of youth
- How relationships are our greatest teachers
4 Reasons Lindsey Simcik Loves Getting Older
1. I Resist Less
As I get older, I resist less. I am less prone to get involved in the melodrama of my mind.
The melodrama of my mind involves resisting what pains me. Often we have stories, memories and ways of being within ourselves that have caused pain, and when a related experience happens we feel this pain deeply.
As humans, we often resist pain and it is that resistance that causes deep sadness and frustration. As I get older, I allow events and feelings to move through me more quickly.
It’s beautiful to reflect upon what you are resisting right now. I promise you, there will be light and love on the other side of whatever it is that you’re resisting.
2. I Love Myself More
It sounds cheesy, but I love myself more as I get older.
I have compassion for the parts of me that find it hard to grow and find it hard to let go. I know younger Lindsey well and I show up for her as adult Lindsey to remind her that I am working on things with her.
It’s a beautiful collaboration between adult Lindsey, little Lindsey, and my higher self, my Soul.
I also love and respect my body a lot more. When you’re younger there are a lot of stimuli that tell us not to trust ourselves or to outsource our intuition. Now I know that I had to leave my body and be far from my intuition in order to return.
When I was running my body down by drinking and working out too much at SoulCycle, my adrenals were completely shot. I have become much softer with myself and I now see myself differently.
I encourage you to take the time to look at your body. Take in the messages and stories from your body.
What you have been through? Remember the times when your body has sent you clear messages. Tune into your beautiful body. Your body has so much intelligence and information and is so forgiving.
3. I Take More Responsibility
Sometimes it’s hard because I take on too much responsibility and things that are not mine, so I have to be super discerning. It has been important that adult Lindsey takes responsibility for what is mine, including every moment, every conversation, and every relationship because I would want other people to do the same.
If I am not practicing that and offering that to others, how do I expect the same from other people?
It has also become a much more peaceful existence to take responsibility for myself. I remember there was a time in college where I felt like I blamed my then-boyfriend for everything, every negative experience. I wasn’t looking at myself and the unhealed parts of me. It has been helpful in therapy to parse through these parts of myself.
This whole life and simulation we’re in is just a mirror of what’s going on inside of us.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What about me, my experience, past, and upper limiting beliefs that are creating this experience in front of me?
- What is this experience showing and teaching me?
4. I Have A Deep Commitment To Rest
I have a deep commitment to rest, rejuvenation and relaxation, and I believe that this is the true fountain of youth. We know that getting enough sleep every night allows our bodies to repair and regenerate in all of the ways that it needs.
But the rest and the energy you embody in between your three different conference calls is equally as important.
- How are you exerting energy?
- How are you saving energy?
- What type of energy is around you?
I have become aware of what does and does not create murky energy in my field. For me, making sure I am nourishing my body with clean and alive foods, getting enough water, getting electrolytes, and making sure I am monitoring what I am taking in on my phone, TV, or computer is important. If anything makes me feel off, then I am mindful to switch it out with something that is more life-giving.
I notice what I take in on social media, so I only follow people and brands that make me laugh or think. Anything that doesn’t make me feel good, I don’t follow. I am mindful of who I am around.
As a recovering people pleaser, I used to surround myself with people who didnt nourish my soul. I had to feel the contrast to know what feels good now.
Questions I ask myself regarding other people are:
- Do these people take responsibility?
- Are they relatively positive and truthful?
- Do they support me and what I am doing?
- Can I have deep conversations with the people that I am around? This is important because surface conversations take energy away from me.
I also move my body in ways that feel good, organic, and celebratory. I don’t want to crush my body with a million HIIT workouts or to escape my life through my workout.
One last thought: We, human beings, are not self-sufficient…
I am learning so much about my relationships as I get older and it truly is freeing. I used to think I had to do it all alone, but we can’t. Relationships are our greatest teachers.
We need connection with other people to love, to know ourselves, to live a full life, and to truly experience God. I feel like I am learning so much about my relationships as I get older and it truly is freeing.
I am letting go of a lot of pieces of me that I felt like I had to uphold in order to be safe and seen. Revealing your heart in every way that you can, allowing pain to move through you, and experiencing another human being without any preconceived notions are amazing gifts.
On your next birthday, I hope you remember that you have within you a fountain of youth of sorts that you get to allow to flow all of the time.